Let’s Talk About It: Menopause, Libido, and Loving Yourself (and Others)
This article is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. For personalised guidance, please consult a qualified healthcare professional.
Let’s be honest — talking about sex, libido, and menopause isn’t always easy. It’s one of those topics that can feel awkward, even in the GP’s office. But here’s the truth: you’re not alone, and there’s nothing embarrassing about wanting to feel good in your body (and in the bedroom).
At Kirribilli Doctors, we’re all about whole-person care — and yes, that includes your sexual wellbeing. So, let’s break the silence and have a real (but relaxed) conversation about libido and menopause.
Wait… Is It Normal for My Libido to Change?
Short answer: yes. Longer answer: your hormones play a big role in desire, arousal, and comfort during sex — and when oestrogen and testosterone levels decline during and after menopause, it can affect all of the above.
Common changes include:
Lower libido (less interest in sex)
Vaginal dryness or discomfort
Longer time to get aroused
Changes in orgasm intensity
Feeling less "in the mood" overall
These changes are biological, not personal — it doesn’t mean something is “wrong” with you or your relationship. And the good news? There’s help.
What Can I Do About It?
You deserve to feel confident, connected, and comfortable in your body — and that includes your sex life. At Kirribilli Doctors, we offer judgement-free, evidence-based support to help you explore what’s going on and what might help.
Here’s some ways we can help reignite the spark:
💧 Address vaginal dryness
Oestrogen creams or vaginal moisturisers can work wonders. Sex shouldn’t be painful — and if it is, there’s a solution.
💡 Check in on your overall health
Fatigue, stress, sleep issues, and mood changes can all affect libido. We’ll help you address the big picture, not just the symptoms.
❤️ Talk it out
Sometimes just having the conversation (with a GP or your partner) can reduce anxiety and open up new possibilities. No shame, just support.
🧘♀️ Reconnect with your body
Movement, mindfulness, and even small moments of self-care can help you feel more in tune with your body — and that’s sexy in itself.
💊 Consider HRT or other treatments
For some women, Hormone Replacement Therapy can improve libido and overall wellbeing. We can discuss whether it’s right for you.
Let’s Normalise the Conversation
Sex doesn’t have an expiry date — it just evolves. Whether you’re partnered, single, or somewhere in between, your sexual health matters. We’re here to talk about it, laugh about it, and support you through it.
Book a chat with one of our GPs — including Dr Georgina Olesnicky, who has a special interest in menopause care — and let’s talk about what pleasure, comfort, and connection look like for you.
No shame. No pressure. Just real care.